Embracing Single Sleeping

You might remember a time when it was normal for our grandparents to have separate beds – or even rooms if possible.  It seems they may have been onto something as having separate beds, or to use the modern term having a “sleep divorce” is now becoming the new normal for many couples, whatever their age.

Snuggling up to a loved one as you drift off is certainly something to cherish, but what do you do when snoring, fidgeting, duvet stealing or sleep talking means that despite being totally compatible during the day, nighttime’s are the polar opposite?  Having a sleep divorce may be the answer! 

Although it is quite a harsh modern phrase, the choice to sleep separately from your significant other is a game changer for many couples.  Because, let’s be honest, sharing a bed with someone whose personal sleep patterns and preferences differ from our own is not good for us.  In fact, it majorly affects our quality of sleep which can have a huge impact on our overall wellbeing.  It can also be responsible for most couple’s early morning arguments. 

The numbers of people recognising this and sleeping apart from their partners is growing and thanks to people taking about it, the general consensus that sleeping apart from our partners is a sign of relationship troubles is rapidly declining.  After all, sleep deprivation affects every aspect of our lives from our physical to our emotional health, so why do we impose it on ourselves and our partners just to fit in with the ‘norm’?

Sleep experts, and those who practice solo sleeping, argue that embracing a sleep divorce can be a proactive and healthy choice for many couples.  Sleeping separately works for many couples, especially where issues from incompatible sleep schedules to snoring to restless leg syndrome and different preferences for room temperature or mattress firmness are present.

Poor sleep can lead to irritability, decreased cognitive function and within couples, plenty of arguments!  By prioritising individual sleep needs couples can address these potential sources of tension and create a more supportive and understanding environment within their relationship.  But it is important that couples discuss this fully before they commit to a ‘sleep divorce’ as it isn’t for everyone. 

Being honest and open, without placing blame on something the other partner may not be able to control (restless legs for instance) helps avoid misunderstandings, especially around commitment.  Like many aspects of relationships, it is about finding a balance, compromising and respecting each others opinions, thoughts and feelings.

And remember it doesn’t have to be a permanent arrangement, many couples sleep separately only on weeknights, so they are fully rested for work making weekend nights far more enjoyable and emotionally satisfying.  

If you are one of the many who are struggling with sleep, why not join the masses and give it a whirl.  It could be a total life changer!

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